Is safe sex still intimate?

I want to practice safe sex everytime but does it ruin the intimacy of it? What if you have an sti and have a long term relationship with your partner using safe sex while they don't have an sti do you think they get tired of having to always use gloves, condoms and dental dam? Would they it cause problems having to use it all the time after being together for several years or they would love you no matter what?





I think I have genital warts from a drunken accident now i feel like dirty and because its uncurable will women still want to be with me?





My self esteem has just plumeted I need some reencouragement

Is safe sex still intimate?
You need to see a doctor for those warts and until then, stick to your condoms, my friend!


"Don't be a fool, wrap your tool!!!"


No, condoms don't ruin intimacy. I do like it better without but seriously, it's not that big a deal... and unsafe-sex is not worthit
Reply:Safer sex is just as intimate unless you build it up in your mind that it's going to be terrible.





HPV is an extremely common STI - in fact a lot more people have it than don't. Often there are no symptoms.





You can have any visible warts removed by a doctor. Provided they don't come back, you'll be in the clear. It's still possible to transmit the virus to another person, but the risk is substantially lower with no visible symptoms.





HPV is not curable, per se, but it is a virus that resides only locally within the skin that it has infected. Once symptomatic tissue has been removed or destroyed, the virus stays latent in deeper layers of skin. It can come back, but it often does not.





Current thought is that if you remain asymptomatic for 10 years your body has effectively expelled the virus. After this length of time your skin has grown and turned over so many times it will have pushed any dormantly infected tissue out.





Don't freak out too much. This is something that just about everyone has, even if they don't know it.
Reply:I don't think it ruins the intimacy. STI's go away with treatment, STD's don't. Genital warts is an STD that will never go away. The good thing is that if you don't currently have a break out, or feel like you are getting one, there is a good chance that you wont pass it on to someone that doesn't have it if you have unprotected sex, BUT there is still a chance. If someone truly loves you, something like that wont matter at all. The big thing is to have the talk about it BEFORE you have sex at all, and let them make the decision....then if they want info, you can invite them to go to the doctor with you, and be able to ask their own questions.


I really wouldn't worry or have low self esteem because of it. Stuff happens, and if you think about it, the statistics are that 1 in 4 people have it, and 2 out 4 come in contact with it in their life time.
Reply:i would hope not. if u can think of ways to make it more fun. it might change the way sex feels but it shouldn't take away the intamacy. i have genital herpes and feel your pain i have my "dirty feeling" days too. all i do is think that i'm not alone because other people have this too and some suffer worse than i do.