Is it ever safe to have unprotected sex, even when married?

The reason I ask is because I just posted a question about having oral sex with my boyfriend who, like me, has never had any kind of sexual contact with anyone else. I asked about the risk factor of contracting a disease and some people understandably said that it's never smart to do even oral sex unprotected because things like hiv could be present even in virgins from non-sex scenarios.





So my question is, what about married couples (when they're not trying to concieve.) If two complete virgins who trust eachother are unsafe then it sounds like there is no safe circumstance and even married couples should never sexually exchange body fluids because there is always a potential risk.





These days, should unprotected sex only occur when trying to have a child? And all other times things like dental dams need to be used because even with someone you trust, it's possible to spread something without knowing it?





Not trying to argue for either side, just curious what people think

Is it ever safe to have unprotected sex, even when married?
Standard procedure when planning on being in a monogamous relationship with someone...get tested for everything first, then ditch the condoms if negative.
Reply:Yes, only when both sides agree to it and committed to start a family.
Reply:Interesting Q Maybe you should ask that guy down in Georgia...
Reply:wht the **** ru talking ******.
Reply:Some diseases you can be born with, however most of those are not passed sexually. passed thru needles from drugs, doctors or tattoos, if your partner has been tested and you are either on birth control or not worried about getting knocked up go for it. For one night stands or casual sex, yes use protection, more than one kind if you can, spermacide, birth control, male or female condom, etc. For someone youre with for awhile, not a big deal if they are clean. If they dont have anything, you cant get anything.
Reply:I've had doctors tell me that I shouldn't have unprotected sex with my husband (back when we were still together). I've had other doctors tell me that is paranoid unless I have cause to believe he has hepatitis or is cheating on me.





Sex is pretty scary these days...
Reply:I think as long as your both virgins and haven't had any Blood-transfusions you should be safe :~)
Reply:i think it depends really you could take pill to not get pregnant


but youd have to wear protection if you didnt want to catch nothing.


depends how much you believe in one another to trust that your each other first.


you could always both get tested before having unprotected sex.


but if you dont want a family id take the pill or something.


xx
Reply:Very strange. Are you living with Quakers or something. You can't spread HIV (or any disease for that matter) if you don't have it. Sex is safe when you know your partner. "could be present even in virgins from non-sex scenarios" Is your partner a intravenouses drug user? Virgins usually don't have HIV unless they are drug users.
Reply:If married people are monogamous there is no need for protection. If your in a long term monogamous relationship there is no need for protection other than pregnancy. Once your sure you will be with someone and no one else and they feel the same you can discontinue protection for the sake of STDS.It's unneeded if your true to each other.If you suspect your mate is seeing someone else demand it. If you are unsure if you have something , get checked before not using protection. You can also have your mate get checked just to be sure it would rest both your minds.
Reply:Safety is a personnal decision based on the practices of you and your partner. If you and your partner have NEVER had sexual RELATIONS with ANYONE, NEVER received a blood transfusion or organ transplant and NEVER done drugs then I would say that the risk of getting a STD is 0. The only issue that you have to worry about is having kids. If you do not what to use protection than you should get on birth control.
Reply:Yes things can be spread. If you 2 are truly virgins (no oral sex with anyone else) . First, you are very lucky. I suggest both partners be tested NOW and again in 6 months--married or not. My husband %26amp; I were from the sex, drugs and rock n roll age. When we married at 31 %26amp; 32 they were just starting to talk about aids or HIV. We both knew that the other had been with many since our families would disown us if we had married in 1972.We agreed if we made it 10 years with no systems we would be very blessed. This year was our 22nd anniversary and we NEVER used protection.
Reply:usually sex is part of our life, it is normal. but the question is how could we protect sex safety now a days. for those person who are commit this things you know already the consequences this action.but for the married how are in this part, we considered it as responsibilities to their spouse.
Reply:don't do the sex thing till you are married safest way to not get anything and not get pregnant now when your married unprotected sex is i think fine because your not going to get pregnant unless God wants you to. you know. besides sex is suppose to be for marriage any way if he wears a condom it takes the feeling away and if you marry him you should trust and know that he does not have anything (std) anyhow beleave me sex is so much better unprotected so much more feeling.
Reply:It's a matter of trust, really.

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